I’m going to be really honest and open with you. You are the problem. You really are. You’re trapped in this endless cycle of conforming to societies unreachable beauty standards. You don’t feel beautiful or attractive because Betty or Jane from Instagram has a smaller nose or a slimmer physique. True happiness and self love comes when you stop comparing yourself and start accepting your imperfections. Okay Betty has a smaller nose than you… so? Where do we go from here?
We are brainwashed into believing that our worth is valued upon our looks. You’re then told that a certain appearance is deemed beautiful and if you don’t fit into this box you’re unattractive. Our features and bodies are different sizes and shapes. Embrace it! We are objectified on a regular basis by men but what really annoys me is that us women do not support eachother. We as women shouldn’t put other women down simply because we believe that we are ‘better looking.’ Better looking? By what standard?? WHO SET THESE STANDARDS? Society ergo MEN. ITS A MANS WORLD. Patriarchy is not a myth and we are currently being told that make up or plastic surgery is our saviour.
Well sis, I’m here to tell you that you are beautiful just the way you are! You may feel uncomfortable in your clothing or avoid mirrors and pictures. We’ve all been there, but you don’t have to feel that way. Whether you’re a size 2 or 32, you should be happy and confident in your body. You are beautiful in each and every way. I know it’s easier said than done to just wake up one day and start loving your ‘flaws’ but stop thinking of it as a flaw. Your stretch marks, cellulite or any other insecurity that you may have is normal!! We all have it, that’s what makes us women. Airbrushed or filtered pictures is not a reflection of perfection because nobody is perfect. EVEN the women in those photos do not look like that – their ‘imperfections’ have been photoshopped.
I could sit here all week trying to persuade you to love yourself and to support your fellow sisters. However in order for the process of self love and unity to start, you must:
1. Change your mentality to appreciate the beauty in all of our sisters. It’s sad to think that men are united but us women, in every realm (whether socially or professionally) do not uplift or support one another.
2. Invest in ‘Me time’ – simply find the time to appreciate yourself. This may be a weekly thing but you give yourself time to unstress; I refer to this as a mental health break. Sunday’s is my usual day to pamper myself, enrich my soul and mind.
I hope this helped somebody as I truly believe that happiness starts with self love. I will continue doing blogs about topics similar to this, including toxic friendships/relationships but comment below if you have any questions!
Until next time,
The inner thoughts of a rambling blogger